YOU NEED TO STOP SELF SABOTAGE

How many times have you pinned yourself in one spot avoided doing exactly what you have been planning. Self sabotage is so common yet so rare because we do not talk about it. Most people struggle with this and end up finding reasons to blame others or their situations.

What is stopping you? Is it fear of failure or fear of starting? Whatever it is just do not give a moment in your thoughts. This can block you from doing things that you have been planning for in a very long time.

Now let us look at how you can break the pattern of self sabotaging.

ASSESS YOUR BEHAVIOR: you are the only one with an ability to know and acknowledge that there are certain behaviors that you are allowing that stop you from starting or doing things. Look at the things that you do that have an impact on you slowing down or losing interest in achieving your goals. This will hard because you’re going to be giving excuse for every wrong behavior and you do not need to. Allow yourself to sense the wrong in not giving yourself a chance to do what you have plans of doing.

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WHAT CAUSES THE SABOTAGING BEHAVIOR: Now, we do most things and act a certain way because of particular influences. Get to know your influence and know which behavior pattern it encourages. When you are able to tell the root cause of the behavior that sabotages your own goals and plans it will be easy to help yourself out of the self sabotage pit. As written above you might happen to have excuses for behaviors that you are not ready to part with but it is a matter of trying. Dig deeper into what is stopping you from going ahead. Look for the root cause even in unexpected areas because it is a slow process and everything has to be put on the table to avoid relapses and backsliding.

INTROSPECTION. How about a little look into who really are and what you are really doing. Some self-reflection will not hurt. Take time to asses your life and what you want. Look deep into what you have been trying to achieve and what has been stopping you. Try by all means not to bring anything outside of yourself as a reason to why you are not going forward. Give the attention to yourself and then work on it. Be fair, do not pressurise yourself. Remember you are trying to solve a problem within you and not creating a bad space for your progress. Look at habits that have been hindering you from starting on your plans or keeping you away from doing the work that is needed to progress.

POSITIVITY IN YOU: There is an inner voice in you that constantly reminds you that you have to get up and start working on your dreams but the above mentioned traits about behaviors is what suppresses it. The bad habits take space of this positive voice inside you and you have given them a go ahead. Start listening to the inner you and pay attention to the positive attitude it brings. This might get tiring as you will sometimes need a second opinion but also lean to listen to your own advice that comes from within. There is nothing wrong with taking your own advice and try it. There is that inner voice inside you that wants you to make it and win in life , give it a chance.

MAKE BEHAVIOR PATTERNS THAT WORK FOR YOU: You have identified behavior patterns that are working against you and you need to change them and make something that works in your favour. Work hard on making the right decisions. You know what tickles your fancy and that is what you need to work on first. Do not be hard on yourself and do not be be too soft also. The best way to come up with what works is to think about the reasons you need to do it. Remind yourself why you are doing it and what you are looking to achieve. Despite having identified the patterns that slow you down turn to ones that give you a reason.

START MAKING SMALL CHANGES: The journey of making your plans work will not start until you start taking your first steps. Begin with make small changes on your behavior patterns and doing little activities that align with what you want to achieve. It is the small steps that will determine if you are ready to work on it or you need to adjust. Baby steps are meant to get you ready for the big job of working towards your goals and dreams. When you do all this start taking note of what brings you joy, the importance of this is to know what activities keep you going. Start also taking notes of where you are falling behind and what you could do to pull yourself up.

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PLAN YOUR GOAL AND THE ROAD MAP: You have settled into your route and ready to make it work. Set goals that are relevant to the main goal. If you had no main goal set this is the the time to do so since you have picked your rhythm and ready to make way for yourself. Self sabotage can take a lot from a a person. The dreams that you had cancelled before you started and all the things you thought were impossible can now be taken head on. You need to look how far you have come and use the same strength to keep moving. work on the goals and follow the road map you have outlined for yourself.

Do not be afraid to fail. Working on making it is not mistake proof. We need the results to be perfect that means mistakes will be made and corrections will also be made. It is up to you to keep soaring high after fighting off self sabotage habits and letting those bad habits go and introduce what works and what works for you as an individual.

XoXo

Thero M

RED FLAGS THAT SHOULD GET YOU RUNNING

Relationships are hard no matter how much we want them to be easy. At the same time we can be in relationships with ease and more relaxation after we set goals and sometimes rules

Though they say love is blind, is it a good reason to neglect our own feelings.

Here are some of the things to look out for when getting into a relationship:

AGGRESSION: by this I mean when your new partner is unhappy about something and they decide to approach you with too much anger

This can make anyone uncomfortable and feel belittled. Though we make excuses foe such behaviour taking a deeper look into your feeling after the event is the most important part. That choking that you feel, the blame you put on yourself are toxic and will make you forget about your happiness.

You can’t always be happy but you have to most be most times.

AGREE TO EVERYTHING THEY DO/SAY:

You’re in a relationship for goodness sake not a military. Your opinions matter too.

Civil conversations should be normalised in relationships. Now imagine if your partner is the one that wants to run your relationship like a military. It tends to cause more arguments.

If I can tell you, agreeing to everything because you want peace is not getting peace. It will haunt you until you forget about it and guess what it might be used as reference on the next argument.

You can have a grown up discussion without any of you feeling like authority or leader of a gang. If this happens address it with your partner and if it persists RUN. You need your sanity.

SAD MOMENTS SURPASS HAPPY MOMENTS:

Why do you prefer this kind of relationship when there is tons of happiness out there.

Choose you, choose your sanity, choose your happiness and choose you heart. Though we like joking about guarding our hearts and souls we actually have to do it. Do not be desperate to be in a relationship to a point where you STAY even when there is not ray of sunshine in your relationship.

Do not stay I repeat do not stay. Leave because you end up in too deep. You become a doormat for a relationship that doesn’t work for you. Remember if you can’t talk and solve it remember you need yourself more than anyone needs you

ABUSE: I mean any form of abuse,

Physical, emotional and verbal abuse can’t be sugar coated no matter how much you try.

You cannot allow yourself to walk around with a broken spirit. You are not going to live around negative energy because you are in a relationship. You’re slowly burning yourself to ashes inside. And there will be a time where you’ll not be able to save yourself. So RUN and remember Gender Based Violence is both sides. Men can get abused too. To men, do not be afraid to talk about it you also need to heal.

WHEN THEY DIM YOUR LIGHT:

When your partner doesn’t allow you to be who you’re.

When we get into new relationships we shouldn’t forget who we are. We should still remain as bubbly as we were. We cannot change in a relationship but remain our true selves so that our new partners know who they are dealing with and love us for who we are.

Changing to suit our partners tends to make us forget our selves and get lost. When things go wrong we don’t even remember who we truly are.

Remember to stay true to yourself and don’t lose identity. Like I always put it, your sanity matters in a relationship.

If you feel like you’re changing to fit into someone’s life RUN.

E-Book Launch WAYS TO LOVE YOURSELF

I’ve been working on a self love book and it is finally here!

Through different platforms I have realised that there are people who still struggle with the journey of self-love because they have no one or no tool to help them throughout the way.

So I came up with this little manual or guide to help those are on that journey so that they don’t feel alone and they have something to keep them going and a book to read whenever they need a reminder that self-love is key in our lives.

When I wrote this book I had people that are actually struggling and those who are learning to love themselves again after they have gone through a rough life experiences in my mind.

With the way the world has turn out to be and the way behaviours of people have changed it has made some people uncomfortable to express themselves openly. I wrote this book to act as a friend that one can communicate with and I’m opening up to anyone who like to discuss the book with me or have a discussion and helping them start the journey of self-love.

In a short period of time I’ll be welcoming people that would like to have sessions with me on a weekly basis Monday to Friday to help them kick start the journey of loving themselves, assessing key areas where they need to actually put the focus so that they can win if this journey of loving themselves.

The platform of having consultations is to be able to learn the patterns and behaviours of people that are going through journeys that are tough to carry and they need help to be able to express themselves. Not in any way will I be taking a place of a psychologist or therapist but I’ll be taking a place of a friend who’s willing to listen and be a friend to anyone that will come my way.

This book is just the beginning of a wonderful journey that I want to have with other people out there and make sure that I reach a number of people that can also reach out to others and and be examples of people who have learnt to love themselves beyond their life experiences.

To purchase this book just click on the picture of the book cover and it will Direct you straight to Amazon where you can purchase the Ebook version and the paperback version is also under construction hopefully it will be available soon.

GETTING OUT OF ABUSIVE ENVIRONMENTS

Abuse is one of the things that I fear most in my life because it tortures a person mentally, physically and every fibre in their body.

Abuse is categorised in So Many Ways just like I’ve mentioned above but do you know we can overlook abuse even when we feel it, we can overlook abuse even when we see it to a point where the trauma caused on our brains is severe.

So many are times when I would advise people around me about abusive environments. Sometimes the abuse doesn’t have to be directed at you it can be around you.

Now the question is are you able to sense abuse when it is surrounded you?

Are you able to tell that you are in an abusive environment?

Those are some of the things that you have to know how to sense feel and see and now know how to walk out. Sometimes we get very used to abusive environments and we don’t even know how to get out so on this read I’m taking you through steps or things you can look at that can help you get out of an abusive environment.

The reason why I’m using abusive environment is because I don’t want to categorise abuse I’m not going to talk about physical abuse or emotional abuse or verbal abuse separately because all these can exist within the same environment directed to you or around you.

So on this article I’ll be showing you and helping you on how to get out of abusive environments.

Letting Go is one of the hardest things to do.

Even people with strong and Minds find it hard to let go of their habits now imagine an environment that you have been accustomed to.

Start looking for distractions when you think of walking out or letting go, start thinking of distractions before the abuse traumatizes you.

Because you feel everything that is happening around, you feel the abuse getting into you.

Sometimes there are things that we love that we neglect, start looking onto those while you are looking for a way of walking out.

When you start doing things that can distract you and you start enjoying them it gives you a light to know that there is a life for you outside abuse there is a life for you outside relationships, friendships, a workplace and a family that is abusive not only physically remember but emotionally and verbally.

If it is Reading or writing that you like doing start doing that a lot it will give you a bit of liberation and destruction from the hurt and the anger that you are dipped in . So plant things that you like in your mind teach your mind where to look at when they are abused once to make you fall apart.

This particular one I cannot stress enough, the places we go to influence our thoughts so much just like the programs we watch on TV influence us.

We should learn to go to places where we learn to be better people like the library church and support groups. Some will expect me to mention shopping, it is a therapy for some people but then it should not lend you into debt that will get you in trouble and credits that you can’t control so do things that mean so much more yet important to you.

Visit places that build you, visit places that teach you so much about yourself, visit places that remind you of your worth and how much of a good person a better person you can be.

Often times when we go through stressful situations like being in a abusive environment we go to the wrong places we go to bars clubs resort to alcohol but we forget that the feeling of forgetting the hurt is temporary. It will follow suit tomorrow which means you are not creating a solution you are just pushing the problem aside which will eventually come back.

So start visiting places which will not remind you of the abuse, which will help you grow, which will distract you and allow you to do things that you love and places that will remind you that you don’t need to be where you are abused.

Hurt and abuse can delay you so much that you realise you never give yourself time. So turn the lights to yourself. Start looking yourself in a different way or should I say the way you want the world to look at you.

Start focusing so much on yourself. Start giving yourself time, when you go back to some of my reads about self-love you realise it needs more attention than we think. When you start loving yourself you know you don’t deserve to be in places where there is so much anger and hurt. You will know you belong to places where there is so much laughter, love and acceptance

Pay attention to yourself, your needs, your wants and things that make you happy.

Love yourself better and in a big way.

This means starting a journey with yourself and stepping out of the abuse zone.

When is still realising that there is more to you avonhead there’s a method that is going to stop you from taking over the world. Are you start seeing yourself as this person has so much potential and a lot to achieve. That moment is when you pack your bag and leave the bitter, hurting environment behind.

Start healing, talk to someone who is willing to listen and match your energy. This healing process will mean you have to start building Trust with people around you, you start being cautious of everything that happens around you so that you don’t go back so that abuse you were used to. That environment that never allowed you to be yourself to where things were not screaming happy but rather hurt.

I hope you find yourself. I hope you give yourself a chance. Even when you’re not going to walk out. Fix things, try to create a conducive environment through your voice.

Xoxo

Thero Madziba

The Journey Inside You

Get ready to connect the person that you are with the person you want to be.

Get your mind to open a space of learning to be a better person not for anyone but for yourself.

My version of self-love and self-care is based on understanding the person that I am a learning to love myself before I allow anyone to love me.Here is a guide to help shift your thoughts about yourself.

You wake up every morning to Bath, clean the house, make a meal for yourself, get ready for the day spontaneously or with a plan.

Your mind starts remembering all the things that you have to do on that day, people you have to talk to, people you have to text and things you promised to do for people.

Do you allow your mind to start thinking of your needs except for food in the house? Except the toiletry that you need, except fuel and what you’re going to eat during the day?

Does your mind stop for a minute during the process of getting ready to think if there’s something that you need to fill within yourself?

Does your mind question if you have to get rid of grudges that you have?

All the anger that you are carrying towards someone?I urge you to train your mind to put you first. Allow yourself to be in the moment, allow yourself to feel everything that is around you especially in the morning.

Have you ever heard people say she woke up on the wrong side of the bed today? It is because of the mood that you are portraying that makes people say that. Do you think if you took a minute to be in the moment allow yourself to take care of yourself before stepping out of the house could make people say that about you?

Sometimes you are moody not because you are angry but because you are far behind with loving yourself.When you start to Love Yourself you want to be happy just like when you love someone you want them to be happy. When you start loving yourself you are able to feel each and every inch of tiredness in your body and you do something about it, it’s just like when you see the person you love tired you allow them to rest you even insist on them resting.Start listening to yourself start listening to your emotions, start listening to your body, start listening to your soul and spirit and start listening to your surroundings.

Loving yourself is not supposed to be a job it is not even supposed to be tiring because it is you, your thoughts, your emotions and the love that you have for yourself. That makes you start thinking of doing everything to keep yourself happy.

Loving oneself is the most important thing because it teaches people how to love you.

There’s a very common battle between us and our emotions.

This battle makes us say we’re confused or we have too many decisions to make but do you ever listen and realise your mind is pulling to the other side e.g. the I love him but at the same time I don’t think he’s right for me but then your mind says give it a try.

This is a clear sign that you as one person can have a battle within yourself and at the end of the day there’s no one to blame for anything not even yourself.When you get emotional and you don’t portray your emotions or let them show there’s a bit of suffocation that happens within you and most times later on you would want to blow.

My question is why do you make yourselves suffer because you are afraid of people seeing your vulnerable?Why do you detach yourself from feeling things when the are happening?

There’s a difference between real-time reactions and delayed reactions. This is because in real-time you get to feel each everything that is going on and in delayed reaction you still have to remind yourself of why you are actually reacting.

So the relationship between you and your emotions should not suffer because you want the world to look at you with a certain perception.

Stop betraying yourself start connecting with your emotions so that you don’t carry so much weight on your shoulders.

If it is laughter show it, laugh as hard as you can, if it is crying cry because you are really listening to what you’re feeling at the moment stop betraying yourself.

Ohhhhh child our souls are broken.

If you have never had a broken soul bless you.

If you have never felt the person within you tested and about to give up when your spirits start going low and your soul is lingering only on surrendering to the almighty.

My Prayer always consist of healing my soul. I’ve been broken before and probably I will be broken again but I still pray for my soul.

There is so much hurt within us that is eating us from inside we are burning to ashes inside yet we are moving. There is always a shaking voice from a person with a broken soul because they think it cannot be fixed.

There is so much power in letting negativity go, there is so much power in loving yourself so much that you don’t allow bad air to come around you. when your soul is broken you think everyone sees it you become too defensive to even accept help from those who want to help.

Start fixing broken relationships, start fixing things that have detached you from your emotions, start healing from the brokenness of your soul and start healing the wounds that are open.I am so much afraid of a broken soul because most of the time the lights are dimmed and there’s no light at the end of the tunnel that is visible for broken Souls.

To avoid such stop holding on grudges, stop thinking everyone is your enemy, start thinking positively, start putting yourself first.Learn yourself so that you can tell others about you and most importantly teach people about who you are, what you are about, and what you expect from them.

Your soul will be relieved of so much scars on it.Cleanse your soul, cleanse yourself before anyone wants to fix your broken soul.

Surrender to God he wants us the way we are and believe me there’s so much joy and surrendering to God.

There’s this person that you want to be, a better version of yourself but you feel there’s always something hindering you.

When you pray for a better life like having your own house, having a car, having kids & having financial freedom don’t forget to pray for yourself because those things are for you you should be ready to have them in your life.The reason why sometimes we fail to manage wealth is because we don’t pray for ourselves. When you pray for yourself there is so much guidance within you. You become so grounded, wealth and materialistic things don’t control your train of thoughts.

Because you are praying to be a better person for your own sake and so that you don’t self-destruct. start praying for yourself. Pray for the better you that you want.There is joy and peace in praying for yourself and your prayers manifest because you wake up happy, loving yourself everyday, you wake up with a clean and loving soul that is not broken you and looking forward to the day because the first thing you do is pray for yourself, think of your needs and you start putting yourself first. Pray for a better you.

Most of us did not grow up in friendly environments where love was the main ingredient of the family.

You could have gone through a traumatic growing up experience but that doesn’t mean you are any less of a person than people around you.Sometimes the journey to Self love starts with healing the child inside you, healing the wounds that were open during your childhood.

Some childhood traumas can carry on up to the time are supposed to love yourself even more.Our minds keep telling us we are not worth anything because of our traumatic experiences as kids, if you longed-for love, you begged for it and you asked for it there is a high possibility that you won’t be able to recognise love when it’s around even from yourself. This breeds too much doubt and you start believing negativity that was thrown at you.Emerge a better person.Heal the child in you.Shift your thoughts about yourself.

You have untold stories of hurt and abuse and telling them seems impossible. You think no one will listen not even to understand your stories.

Deal with the trauma anyhow you can so that you move from hating yourself to loving yourself.

I hope you become your own dream come true.

I pray you see your worth and live it. I desire to live in a world where loving oneself is normal.

YOU SHOULD TAKE A BREAK

Have you ever felt so tired you needed a break from the world?

Have you ever felt like you don’t need to wake up in the morning and go to work or do any work at all?

Have you ever felt like there’s something missing deep within or you have a void that you need to fill?

If you answered yes to the above questions it’s a sign that you need to take a break. If there is a sign that you need to give yourself time to reboot and heal don’t hesitate do it.

Sometimes we are not aware that we are actually weary and there’s so much weight on our shoulders until we fall. The question is why should you allow yourself to break before you actually take the break.

Do you know that taking a break is actually vital for your mental health and physical health. That is the reason why doctors give us bedrest when they realise that we are fatigued and we need vitamins and most importantly the rest.

We may take it for granted but as time goes on our bodies will start to get worn out because of the negligence we decided to do. Our bodies will start complaining at a time when we totally can’t do anything but rely on medication and help from people surrounding us but the question is, is that what you want.

I urge you to take a break I urge you to rest. Most of the time we were told to get rich we don’t have to sleep now the question is after making all the money are you going to spend it on medication and lying down because your body can no longer take it anymore even going on a holiday?

All we need to do sometimes is to take just a single day off in a week or maybe three in a month to re-energize and set our minds straight.

There is something very beautiful about the word peace even saying it brings so much calm in anyone’s mind.

Taking a break sometimes is for a purpose of having peace in your life. It doesn’t have to take a lot from you to feel peaceful because then if you need so much energy effort sweat and blood to be peaceful then you are also taking away from your peace.

There are times when your mind needs to calm down and start assessing things in a clearer way.Do not deny yourself peace just that you can give it to others. Do not deny yourself a content life because you are afraid of relaxing and feeling peaceful in your own space. Sometimes peace comes after a long time and not even realising that you are actually at peace until you start feeling a difference on your environment.

Start seeking Peace by allowing yourself to take a Break think and take action on everything that will prune out things that are hindering your peace.

There’s a time where you will actually fall and feel like you’ll never get back up again.

Things will happen in your life that will make you want to reintroduce yourself or even change your name and the town you live at.

Some situations wil humble you, they will drive you crazy and you’ll wish you were around people that never knew you or don’t know anything about you so that you can Bloom.

Did you know you can still Bloom whilst you’re around people that have watched you fall. Like they say trees will still stand even after winter has gotten their leaves away the next summer when it rains they actually become alive.

Flowers will Bloom again leaves will be green again and it will all look beautiful it can be the same with your life.When you take a break come up with a plan of how you are going to start a better and new Life.

Start thinking of things that actually make you happy, things that will show that you are comfortable with who you are, things that will show the radiance from within to outside that you are actually at peace because you took a break and ready to bloom.

It is ok not to be ok but it doesn’t mean you should be stuck there.

How about if you just work on letting go of anything that is stopping you from being peaceful and happy?

Taking a break will actually help to build the person that you want to be, to create a new you and become whatever you’ve always wanted to become a better person in the society. Accepting that it is okay to cry, to crumble and fall.

To lose means that you are able to grieve, let go and start a new life. Like I said above you have to allow yourself to Bloom but before you bloom you have to allow the Old leaves to fall off and those are your tears. Allow yourself to cry and reform yourself, change your mindset about so many things and begin a new life.It is ok to cry, it is ok to break things when you’re in the moment, it is ok to shout and also it is ok to tell somebody how you feel it is ok not to be ok.You don’t have to suffocate because you don’t want to crack.

Allow yourself to Suffocate learn how to breathe learn how to be at peace learn how to bloom just take a break .

Take a few steps back from everything even if it means switching off social media go ahead so that you give yourself peace take a break and be the person that you want to be.

I hope you give yourself a chance to be at peace and in an environment that makes you happy otherwise take a break.Ride solo if you have to.

A Relationship With Yourself

We know of so many relationships that surround us and on this one I want to take you through a journey of loving yourself, cherishing yourself & enjoy being you and absolutely having fun with your personality.

The picture above is me having fun and enjoying the moment that I’m in. At this moment all I can think about is myself what I want and the happiness I want to reach. Let me take you through 10 things that I live by that help me Be Happy with who I am.

1. Exploring Yourself

Everyone has to know themselves better than anyone knows them. They have to know what they like, what they dislike, their favourite colours, their favourite food and their favourite kind of hanging out spots.The reason why exploring yourself comes first is because you are packaging yourself, you are able to tell people who you are through these things. Imagine meeting a stranger who asks you what you like the most about yourself, or they ask you what’s your favourite hanging out spot and it has to take you more than two minutes to think about it. Would you say you know yourself if you can answer those two simple question?If you need to write this thing down go ahead and write them down. The reason why you should write them down is it will help you every time there’s a change on the list you know what to scratch off and what to keep because we grow and we change.

2. Giving Yourself Credit

I will work hard don’t wait for anyone to tell you that you did a great job or say well done before you do it to yourself.Whenever we exceeded as the work that I had before me and went beyond what I was supposed to do on that particular day I give credit to myself. I have to before they have to do that because I don’t want to hear it from anyone else before I tell myself.But sometimes we worked so hard and we don’t even get credit or be appreciated weather is at home at work or wherever we are as long as we have done a great job we should give ourselves a pat on the back.

3. Listening To The Inner You

Sometimes there’s that voice inside you that reminds you of things that are not right when you do them or approach you whenever you are going forward learn to listen to it.There’s a high chance that the move was knows you as much as you know yourself. That little with the reminder of things that you have done before if you have failed or gone through. Have you ever wondered when you try to do something and there’s that little voice that says there we go again or it says are you really sure you want to do this listen to that little voice as long as it’s not suppressing your dreams.

4. Believe In Yourself

Do you know you have people waiting for you to crumble and fall.The best gift to give yourself is believe in yourself and pull yourself up whenever you’re down. Believing in the person you are and can become is not rocket science but you thinking about it and living it.

No one will be questioned for your failures and no one will be congratulated for your wins.

I invented that quote because it has helped me a lot.

5. Pampers Yourself

This needs less words and mote doing. Go out there. Get your nails done and your body massaged.Go and cleanse your skin. Get exfoliating and facials. You will tell me about it honey. This will change your life.

6. Pay Yourself

When you are self employed or employed just pay yourself.When you’re employed those saving means that you don’t want to have financial problems you’re actually giving yourself financial freedom.Whenever you have a bonus pay yourself. Use the money you pay yourself with do the above point spoil yourself. Have money that makes you feel good. You are your own boss at the same because you work tirelessly.

7. Be You Own Cheerleader

Do not, do not wait for anyone to be your cheerleader you will wait forever.Jump up and down, scream and make sure you celebrate big or small milestones. That’s a sign that you’re in touch with your emotions. I love celebrating my achievements even just completing work ahead of time.

8. Do Not Hold Grudges

Avoid this one the most please!

Imagine going through sad moments because you chose to hols hold grudges. It kills your esteem and ability to move on my friend. Stay away from hurting yourself because of things you can’t change.

9. Laugh More

Go ahead crack windows with your laughter.Make sure you laugh every chance you get. Make it a habit of grabbing avery happy moment.I promised myself this year I’m spending it laughing so much. I want to remember every month in a way that makes me happy. Full of happiness. I laugh so hard guys.Be happy, Be happy!

10.Love Hard

Honey love that man, love that woman.It is hard to love again when you have been hurt but whenever you get into a new relationship don’t bring the baggage with you. You’re meeting a totally new person and you come in as a new person too.Don’t hold back with fear. You might lose someone who was ready to love you whole heartedly because you don’t show affection and you’re holding back emotionally.Tell yourself that being loved and loving is also for you.That’s how you can have a healthy relationship with yourself.