RED FLAGS THAT SHOULD GET YOU RUNNING

Relationships are hard no matter how much we want them to be easy. At the same time we can be in relationships with ease and more relaxation after we set goals and sometimes rules

Though they say love is blind, is it a good reason to neglect our own feelings.

Here are some of the things to look out for when getting into a relationship:

AGGRESSION: by this I mean when your new partner is unhappy about something and they decide to approach you with too much anger

This can make anyone uncomfortable and feel belittled. Though we make excuses foe such behaviour taking a deeper look into your feeling after the event is the most important part. That choking that you feel, the blame you put on yourself are toxic and will make you forget about your happiness.

You can’t always be happy but you have to most be most times.

AGREE TO EVERYTHING THEY DO/SAY:

You’re in a relationship for goodness sake not a military. Your opinions matter too.

Civil conversations should be normalised in relationships. Now imagine if your partner is the one that wants to run your relationship like a military. It tends to cause more arguments.

If I can tell you, agreeing to everything because you want peace is not getting peace. It will haunt you until you forget about it and guess what it might be used as reference on the next argument.

You can have a grown up discussion without any of you feeling like authority or leader of a gang. If this happens address it with your partner and if it persists RUN. You need your sanity.

SAD MOMENTS SURPASS HAPPY MOMENTS:

Why do you prefer this kind of relationship when there is tons of happiness out there.

Choose you, choose your sanity, choose your happiness and choose you heart. Though we like joking about guarding our hearts and souls we actually have to do it. Do not be desperate to be in a relationship to a point where you STAY even when there is not ray of sunshine in your relationship.

Do not stay I repeat do not stay. Leave because you end up in too deep. You become a doormat for a relationship that doesn’t work for you. Remember if you can’t talk and solve it remember you need yourself more than anyone needs you

ABUSE: I mean any form of abuse,

Physical, emotional and verbal abuse can’t be sugar coated no matter how much you try.

You cannot allow yourself to walk around with a broken spirit. You are not going to live around negative energy because you are in a relationship. You’re slowly burning yourself to ashes inside. And there will be a time where you’ll not be able to save yourself. So RUN and remember Gender Based Violence is both sides. Men can get abused too. To men, do not be afraid to talk about it you also need to heal.

WHEN THEY DIM YOUR LIGHT:

When your partner doesn’t allow you to be who you’re.

When we get into new relationships we shouldn’t forget who we are. We should still remain as bubbly as we were. We cannot change in a relationship but remain our true selves so that our new partners know who they are dealing with and love us for who we are.

Changing to suit our partners tends to make us forget our selves and get lost. When things go wrong we don’t even remember who we truly are.

Remember to stay true to yourself and don’t lose identity. Like I always put it, your sanity matters in a relationship.

If you feel like you’re changing to fit into someone’s life RUN.

YOU SHOULD TAKE A BREAK

Have you ever felt so tired you needed a break from the world?

Have you ever felt like you don’t need to wake up in the morning and go to work or do any work at all?

Have you ever felt like there’s something missing deep within or you have a void that you need to fill?

If you answered yes to the above questions it’s a sign that you need to take a break. If there is a sign that you need to give yourself time to reboot and heal don’t hesitate do it.

Sometimes we are not aware that we are actually weary and there’s so much weight on our shoulders until we fall. The question is why should you allow yourself to break before you actually take the break.

Do you know that taking a break is actually vital for your mental health and physical health. That is the reason why doctors give us bedrest when they realise that we are fatigued and we need vitamins and most importantly the rest.

We may take it for granted but as time goes on our bodies will start to get worn out because of the negligence we decided to do. Our bodies will start complaining at a time when we totally can’t do anything but rely on medication and help from people surrounding us but the question is, is that what you want.

I urge you to take a break I urge you to rest. Most of the time we were told to get rich we don’t have to sleep now the question is after making all the money are you going to spend it on medication and lying down because your body can no longer take it anymore even going on a holiday?

All we need to do sometimes is to take just a single day off in a week or maybe three in a month to re-energize and set our minds straight.

There is something very beautiful about the word peace even saying it brings so much calm in anyone’s mind.

Taking a break sometimes is for a purpose of having peace in your life. It doesn’t have to take a lot from you to feel peaceful because then if you need so much energy effort sweat and blood to be peaceful then you are also taking away from your peace.

There are times when your mind needs to calm down and start assessing things in a clearer way.Do not deny yourself peace just that you can give it to others. Do not deny yourself a content life because you are afraid of relaxing and feeling peaceful in your own space. Sometimes peace comes after a long time and not even realising that you are actually at peace until you start feeling a difference on your environment.

Start seeking Peace by allowing yourself to take a Break think and take action on everything that will prune out things that are hindering your peace.

There’s a time where you will actually fall and feel like you’ll never get back up again.

Things will happen in your life that will make you want to reintroduce yourself or even change your name and the town you live at.

Some situations wil humble you, they will drive you crazy and you’ll wish you were around people that never knew you or don’t know anything about you so that you can Bloom.

Did you know you can still Bloom whilst you’re around people that have watched you fall. Like they say trees will still stand even after winter has gotten their leaves away the next summer when it rains they actually become alive.

Flowers will Bloom again leaves will be green again and it will all look beautiful it can be the same with your life.When you take a break come up with a plan of how you are going to start a better and new Life.

Start thinking of things that actually make you happy, things that will show that you are comfortable with who you are, things that will show the radiance from within to outside that you are actually at peace because you took a break and ready to bloom.

It is ok not to be ok but it doesn’t mean you should be stuck there.

How about if you just work on letting go of anything that is stopping you from being peaceful and happy?

Taking a break will actually help to build the person that you want to be, to create a new you and become whatever you’ve always wanted to become a better person in the society. Accepting that it is okay to cry, to crumble and fall.

To lose means that you are able to grieve, let go and start a new life. Like I said above you have to allow yourself to Bloom but before you bloom you have to allow the Old leaves to fall off and those are your tears. Allow yourself to cry and reform yourself, change your mindset about so many things and begin a new life.It is ok to cry, it is ok to break things when you’re in the moment, it is ok to shout and also it is ok to tell somebody how you feel it is ok not to be ok.You don’t have to suffocate because you don’t want to crack.

Allow yourself to Suffocate learn how to breathe learn how to be at peace learn how to bloom just take a break .

Take a few steps back from everything even if it means switching off social media go ahead so that you give yourself peace take a break and be the person that you want to be.

I hope you give yourself a chance to be at peace and in an environment that makes you happy otherwise take a break.Ride solo if you have to.

Get To Know Me

This is meeeeeee!!!The girl behind the blog.15 facts about me is here at least get to know the girl I am in a more meaningful way.

1. My name in full

Ans: Thero O B Madziba

2. My age and DOB

Ans: turning 27 in 05/05Born 05/05/1993

3. Star sign

Ans: Taurus

4. The Country I live in

Ans: Botswana

5. Sibling

Ans: sisters and a brotherπŸ‘«

6. Relationship status

Ans: Taken 😍😍😍😍😍

7. Kids

Ans: Not yet

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Fighting Secondary amenorrhea

8. Favourite Drink

Ans: Orange Juice 🍊🍊🍊🍊πŸ₯€πŸ₯€πŸ₯€πŸ₯€

9. Favourite Food

Ans: Mealie Meal, vegetables and meat.

10. Comfort food

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11. Best quote

Ans: Don’t forget your existence when you fall in love.By Me.

12. Favourite Movie

Ans: Any Movie with Denzel Washington 😎😎😎😎

13. Favourite Music/Artist

Ans: African music and a bit of DancehallArstist: Lizibo BW

14. Favourite sports

Ans: Anything that says track

15. What kind of Friend am I?

Ans: The one that will answer your call at 2am.On this read I wanted you to meet me your cyber friend. I am very accommodating and of course friendly.I believe so much in supporting others. It make me happy to see people smiling because I had a part on the experienceπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.Have you ever sit down and ask yourself what will be the world like if we were all happy? Impossible right? But they say laughter and smiles are contagious how about you spread those two from now on and see if you yourself you will not be happy.It felt great sharing a bit about myself with my readers. I’ve been having an amazing explains blogging and I never thought I will have so many readers when I started this. As I write this I’m teary and laughing at the same time because I never thought I could do this nor could I have people reading things that I write.