SELF LOVE PROGRAM

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The self love program is an online workshop held for a period of 14 days with scheduled weeks.

The program aims at making people get back to themselves in a more easy way and with planned topics. There are tasks that are given to help clients connect with who they really want to be.

Daily emails and sometimes with voice noted and pictorial information.

Email : slwiththero@gmail.com to get more information and Rate card for the program.

RED FLAGS THAT SHOULD GET YOU RUNNING

Relationships are hard no matter how much we want them to be easy. At the same time we can be in relationships with ease and more relaxation after we set goals and sometimes rules

Though they say love is blind, is it a good reason to neglect our own feelings.

Here are some of the things to look out for when getting into a relationship:

AGGRESSION: by this I mean when your new partner is unhappy about something and they decide to approach you with too much anger

This can make anyone uncomfortable and feel belittled. Though we make excuses foe such behaviour taking a deeper look into your feeling after the event is the most important part. That choking that you feel, the blame you put on yourself are toxic and will make you forget about your happiness.

You can’t always be happy but you have to most be most times.

AGREE TO EVERYTHING THEY DO/SAY:

You’re in a relationship for goodness sake not a military. Your opinions matter too.

Civil conversations should be normalised in relationships. Now imagine if your partner is the one that wants to run your relationship like a military. It tends to cause more arguments.

If I can tell you, agreeing to everything because you want peace is not getting peace. It will haunt you until you forget about it and guess what it might be used as reference on the next argument.

You can have a grown up discussion without any of you feeling like authority or leader of a gang. If this happens address it with your partner and if it persists RUN. You need your sanity.

SAD MOMENTS SURPASS HAPPY MOMENTS:

Why do you prefer this kind of relationship when there is tons of happiness out there.

Choose you, choose your sanity, choose your happiness and choose you heart. Though we like joking about guarding our hearts and souls we actually have to do it. Do not be desperate to be in a relationship to a point where you STAY even when there is not ray of sunshine in your relationship.

Do not stay I repeat do not stay. Leave because you end up in too deep. You become a doormat for a relationship that doesn’t work for you. Remember if you can’t talk and solve it remember you need yourself more than anyone needs you

ABUSE: I mean any form of abuse,

Physical, emotional and verbal abuse can’t be sugar coated no matter how much you try.

You cannot allow yourself to walk around with a broken spirit. You are not going to live around negative energy because you are in a relationship. You’re slowly burning yourself to ashes inside. And there will be a time where you’ll not be able to save yourself. So RUN and remember Gender Based Violence is both sides. Men can get abused too. To men, do not be afraid to talk about it you also need to heal.

WHEN THEY DIM YOUR LIGHT:

When your partner doesn’t allow you to be who you’re.

When we get into new relationships we shouldn’t forget who we are. We should still remain as bubbly as we were. We cannot change in a relationship but remain our true selves so that our new partners know who they are dealing with and love us for who we are.

Changing to suit our partners tends to make us forget our selves and get lost. When things go wrong we don’t even remember who we truly are.

Remember to stay true to yourself and don’t lose identity. Like I always put it, your sanity matters in a relationship.

If you feel like you’re changing to fit into someone’s life RUN.

THOUGHTS OF COURAGE

Thinking of positive stuff is not a daily thing or something you can do for the whole day.

But we can train our minds to believe that we are the greatest to ever exist. Our existence should be felt by us before being felt by anyone else so as we go on a journey of self-love, self-development and self growth let’s pick thoughts of courage towards ourselves.

The first thing we are supposed to do is believe in ourselves and believe that we can be whatever we want to be as long as opportunity, time and effort are put in.

When an opportunity present itself we should not put doubt in our minds but rather believe we can do it even when we have a little skills and knowledge.

Believing in ourselves create so much confidence and it allows us to break barriers and open doors that were closed and it makes us feel good about ourselves.

Believing we can be whatever we want means effort it also means we want to put time sweat and blood and our energy on it. We become happy about ourselves our achievements and that we can do further that’s more love for ourselves.

Thoughts of courage to oneself are just like affirmations they’re meant to keep us going and believing in ourselves.

Start knowing you are a winner at life and other things despite what we go through.

Believing we are winners means we can overcome and when problems present themselves we switch our minds to the winner button, we switch our minds to believing in ourselves and we know we can conquer. Let’s take thoughts of courage like affirmations when we say good things about ourselves, when we confess good things about ourselves just like saying I am a winner, I am great, and I am important.

Such thoughts bring self growth to us so easily, we grow and develop so easily when we have positive minds and we have thought of courage to ourselves.

When we do thoughts of courage like affirmations sometimes it’s better to write them on our notes on our phone notes or our diary or any where we can reach them easily.

It makes it easy for us to confess them everyday and to say them to ourselves every day. We tend to remember things we read and see so as much as we write this thoughts, as much as we tell ourselves these thoughts of courage it means they get into us.

we started memorizing them whenever we feel down or in doubt we reach at the back of our minds for the thoughts of courage and for good affirmations.

After all is done we need to reward ourselves.

This comes as a gesture to say, we realise our efforts before the world taps our backs. We know how much effort we put on things we do. This keeps us on check that we are not working for nothing.

Do you know appreciating that you work hard means you knew and you know how much effort you put in?

It also encourages us to know our worth, the more we know the work we put in the more we know our worth. We know what we’re capable of, we know how much we can push ourselves.

So why not reward yourself? Let this be a reminder that after all the work that you have done you reward yourself.

Whether you are employed or self-employed or unemployed any anything that you do reward yourself. You become happy. When you have been going to the gym trying to lose weight and you actually lose weight you reward yourself with a pair of jeans that makes you look good.

If you’ve been working so hard at work and you get a bonus use a bit of bonus to go out and have a massage, get your nails done and get your hair done. Do anything that makes you feel good then you become happy with yourself you don’t feel miserable you love yourself more. You keep telling yourself that you actually deserve that reward.

Avoid situations that make you too stressed and unhappy.

Your mental health comes before anything else, your happiness should come before if anything else sometimes avoid stress.

We have to learn to put our minds away from negative environment and we have to learn to distance ourselves from anything that put too much worry on us.

Mental health is something that is not discussed everyday or it’s something that we don’t really make it our cup of tea so we put it at the back of our minds. We have to remember we deserve to be in a state of mind that allows us to go on .

When our minds are in a block because of stress and when we are not in the right mental state we slack on loving ourselves, we become miserable, we question ourselves, we have a doubts about ourselves, we don’t believe in ourselves, we don’t see ourselves as winners and we don’t see ourselves as conquerors.

So mental health is important. Let us tell ourselves mental health is important. We have to know that our mental health comes first and our happiness also situations that are going to put that on hold or disturb that are not needed.

I AM BEAUTIFUL

I AM WONDERFUL

I AM A WINNER

I DESERVE LOVE

I AM WORTH REWARDING MYSELF

I DESERVE HAPPINESS

I AM A CONQUEROR