Mentally Beating Infertility Issues

I’ve been meaning to write this post but my emotions wouldn’t allow me. This topic is very close to my heart because it’s exactly what I’m going through at the moment and it gets to me often times.

My trials and failures have come at a time when I had to think about this. Trying to conceive and thinking about conceiving are two different things and people should learn to differentiate those.

When you are trying to conceive it means time is put on planning in your head and your heart beats for that. Then thinking about conceiving is just a thought that comes now and then triggered by whatever it could be.

In my own little world I would have wanted to conceive from 22 years old I wanted to have three kids who will be two years apart. As in having a kid at 22, 24 and 26. This year I am turning 27 it is the time I could be planning to have another child or planning to continue living my life with the three kids all under 10 and being under 30. But nature hasn’t taken its course.

I have such undefined indefinite and deep Love for kids and unfortunately I have been trying to dig my hand in that bowl just to catch the one for me but it hasn’t happened.

Most of the time I end up in tears when I’m doing or talking about this topic and today I am stronger than any other time I’ve talked about this. My head keeps on telling me it will be okay then my heart yearns to be a mother. I’ve gone to hospitals clinics I’ve done scans have been checked by so many gynecologist everyone says everything is ok but why am I not conceiving.

I have been a patient of secondary amenorrhea for the past 6 years and it’s draining now because the medical bills keep on going high. I’m at a stage where my mind wants to say you will conceive one day, you are okay and you’re doing good then my heart says you want to be a mother time is moving do something.

I have been at my worst thinking about having kids I have cried myself to sleep thinking of having kids. I have even got to a point where adoption was an option but I keep on telling myself I’m still young I have a child period and the question that nobody bothers me is I don’t wanna hang how long am I going to be young I want to have kids that I can play with, kids that I can grow with, kids that won’t have a huge generational difference with me. I want to have babies that I’ll be able to teach my ways. They learn from mine and I learn from their generation without a huge gap between us. But there’s how I deal with not having kids.

Staying positive is not just about saying it staying positive means you tell both your brain and your heart to be optimistic. As you tell yourself that the fear door will be shut and it shall pass.

Talking about the topic with people that understand than people that are going to question you about having kids every time you meet them.

It’s so tiring getting this question of when are you having kids? When people don’t even know your medical background or your reasons for not having kids at a certain age. So be around people that are supportive people that understand your situation people that can comfort you where they know what you’re going through.

Don’t stop seeking medical help. This is because if you didn’t get help the first, the second or the third time doesn’t mean you don’t need it anymore. Keep on going to see specialists because one day out of all the hundred failures it is the hundred and one that will be a success. Oh so keep visiting doctors even if it’s the same doctor one day they will find a solution they will see the determination in you that will also push them to seek help for you.

Read books that pay attention to your problem, read books that address your problem and read articles that actually give you courage in knowing that someone out there has been through the same and you can get through it too. Do not associate yourself with articles that discourage you do not associate yourself with failed methods and do not associate yourself with failed stories because they will only only reflect to you as if you’re going to fail too.

Take advice that you see will work for you. Doctors will always advise you to go certain ways or the other do not be afraid to risk it but do not do anything that is illegal do not be afraid to risk working towards a goal of having babies. When it’s expensive to execute a certain advice save up for it because it is what you want as much as you’ve saved for the bag for the phone for the shoe that he want for a trip that you want see before this one because they’re the end of the day you say that I have tried.

PAYING DEBTS

Hello and let’s get to talk about money.

If there anything in this world that can damage you is debts. I have had my fair share of falling into deep debts that was very difficult to get out of. This time around I want to discuss with you how to get out of debts and live a better and easy life.

I’m so excited to share the steps with you on how I got my life back.

quote calligraphy under cup of lemon teaI have fallen in love with financial literacy.

financial literacy is an essential in our everyday life. I had a month to train myself to be able to handle money and save and learning how to budget, how to prepare spending methods and learning how to use money on good investment is not easy.

Before we take this journey of learning how to get out of debt we should understand the value of money we have on our hands and the bank or the one we are planning to have. Money is not a topic that you just come up with.

On this day and era we have financial advisors we have brokers for our investments and we also have so much information on the internet libraries that can help us help ourselves individually without involving anyone or third party. No matter how much he want to look rich be financial free or have financial freedom you still need to understand financial literacy. The journey that I took to be debt-free was not an easy one I had to learn a few tips and tricks to get off the hook. So I have decided to share with you the same methods that I used to relieve myself from debt and live a debt-free life and easy life where I’m in control of my finances.

STEPS TO FINANCIAL FREEDOM

1. Most of the time before we deal with the problem we have to identify it. Identifying what causes your financial strain and what makes you spend money unnecessarily. The lack of money sometimes is not caused by How Little We got but on how much we spend. So identify what digs into your pocket that doesn’t return any cent.

2. After you identify your problem write it down. After writing the problem that you have try to list possible Solutions under that problem. If it’s budgeting you list them like budgeting, controlling buying food outside, buying groceries for the whole month that’s how you can come up with Solutions.

3. Now that you have identified the problem wrote down possible Solutions now try to figure out if you will be able to perform or work on the Solutions on your own. If it is a difficult for you to execute the action plan that will get to the solution go to the bank that you use for all your income streams. Sit down let them help you with a budget that will work for you for a long time and not strain your pocket so that you don’t borrow money from different people and different microlenders.

4. On this one if you are able to execute the plan on your own. Start cutting out things that make you spend money unnecessarily go back to the problems that you listed on number one and try to figure out a way of executing the Solutions that you wrote under the problem then you are starting your journey to financial freedom. Cut out credit cards that are unnecessary cut buying food out everyday which is expensive, cut out borrowing people that don’t return your money back. Those are a few things you have to cut out of your life.

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5. Now that you’re working on the Solutions be the boss of your money no matter how much you are tempted to buy unnecessary stuff the first thing you have to think about is how will this benefit me? how will this bring money into the house? Will this give me Returns? These are the questions that you’re  supposed to ask yourself  before dropping your hard earned money down the drain. When you start thinking positively about money you start using money correctly. When you start spending on things that do not benefit you in any way about money money will not benefit you.

6. And now that you have worked on your budget you have worked on making money work for you. Pay the little debts that are eating from your pocket when you start taking control of your money remember to clear your debt when that credit card is no longer taking money from you pay the little debts that you made on the way. Now don’t force yourself to pay all your debts at once because it will strain you and you’ll go back to the same habit of borrowing money everywhere using money unnecessarily. So start paying those small debts that have been pestering you with the little change you’re left with from budgeting and using money wisely.

7. Now we are working our way towards financial freedom. We are on our way to that. We are winning at the thing of taking care of money, we are winning this thing of having control of our money. You are the boss of your money you are the leader the holder of money. I am happy that I was able to share this with you. I identify my problems I came up with Solutions I worked on my Solutions. A little bit so that debts weren’t taking money from me monthly unnecessarily. I took charge  so take charge too.

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It was a pleasure sharing that part of my life with you. I’m looking forward to testimonies on how you were able to beat that. I’m looking forward to your testimony on how you managed to get your life back financially. I’m looking forward to seeing you guys gain financial freedom and those are a few steps that I want you to offer you so that you don’t have to worry about money anymore. Remember money is an energy the way you treat money money will treat you. I’m looking forward to and next money talk. Work  hard and making sure we are all bosses of our money.

Picking myself up

The past year has been the most challenging financially and emotionally.

I went through a lot of negatives and lots of downfalls in 2019.

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I had nothing left on my account most of the times. Taking small loans was what always crossed my mind and I learnt to take it the hard way. I was living from cheque to cheque, month to month eating straight from my hand. I lost all hope on saving and having what’s mine. I even planned on selling a few items in my house.  It was really devastating and depressing. I struggled with making a budget.  I also do not know how I made it to 2020 with the heavy baggage I had on my shoulder. There are night where I cried mysemyself to sleep to avoid think about money. There was such a bad eneegybregarding my finances.

My emotions were also all over the place. I felt like I  was sinking and there was no one to rescue me. 2019 was a rollercoaster of emotions for me. I even had thoughts of giving up and quitting on my dreams but the drive in me kept me going my fore fire kept blazing and burning. All hope was lost but I pushed through the year.

Now I have set up a plan of picking myself up and living.

Let me share what my plans are for keeping and growing the little positivity left in me.

1. Having goals:

Putting goals into place and acting upon them reduces the chance of procrastination and builds a strong will to perform. Goals are a bot of motivation no matter how much the pressure feels.

2. Seeking help when needed:

This is very important to consider because sometimes we can’t be jack of all trades. We can’t be in several places at the same time. No matter how much we want to be our own little heroes we have to allow people to help us.

3. Budgeting:

Budgeting is a challenge on it’s own. It takes lots of courage to do it and actually abide by it. Budgeting can become a necessary habit which can be beneficial in building a financial freedom environment.

4. Meditating:

Thinking of this made me a bit nervous because it’s not anything that I’m used to. Being in silent spaces is not my ideal kind of place but I’m not so good with silent space. This is  a good idea if you love silent  spaces.

5. Prayer

It is important to learn how to pray for the things that you want.

Prayer can change lives. It grows the mind especially when you put your mind and effort into it. Learn to have time to speak what you wang into existence.

 

 

Making money online


I have been struggling with making money online. When I discovered blogging.

Blogging doesn’t make you money right away but over sometime when you have a better traffic

usually can depend on advertisement. recently I’ve been doing a lot of

research about making money online, YouTube has all the advice you can give.

Remember this is not a get-rich-quick scheme. This is an empire you have to build brick by brick.

This is an empire you have to build brick by brick.
when I started being an online nomad I had to learn a lot of things

that from the beginning I had discarded but now I have learnt so many things that have

paved a very good pass for me to work on. recently I have learnt to engage my readers

and everyone who’s interested on hearing my story about making money online.

so today I’m going to share tips of what I’ve learnt over time about making money online.

So let’s take this journey together of making money online from different websites.

The first website building site is WordPress. WordPress comes with a

perfect advertisement of its own which is called AdWords.

You can check out WordPress for a free website on http://www.wordpress.com

be sure to look out for their beautiful beautiful themes so that you can make a nice

website for yourself that can attract traffic around advertisers and attract every reader

around the world.

here is another tool that you can use to make money online.

You can use YouTube which is now worldwide and it can get monetized

videos and the more viewers you get the

more time spent on your videos you are sure to make those bucks.

First you have to find something unique like I said on top you have to find something

that you enjoy doing something that you love doing and something that you won’t get tired or bored

of doing overtime. set up your channel give it a very attractive name and name

that will make and no-one skip your videos make videos edit the videos make

sure you have a good editing skills to make you videos enjoyable and make people

spend time watching videos and one of the other things is to make sure that your videos

are family-friendly or no they’re going to get demonetized. when you set up your channel make

sure you know your target niche you know the age you want to target and you are sure to

make good content.

The other tip that I have for you is online surveys. you can go on Google and type online surveys or paid

online surveys and take the surveys

for a minimum of 0.05 cents. Sometimesthey can take so much time to accumulate the amount that is easily

payable. Be patient

because remember you are looking forward to making those bags and being trusted by businesses.

now let’s go to Google adsense, it’s one of the services just like AdWords

where you get paid by advertisers that advertise on your website.

after creating a website and accumulating

a certain number of readers register your website on adsense and they will take a look at it

sometimes it might get rejected sometimes it can be accepted and when it’s rejected take your

time look at their guidelines work on your website and make sure it’s what they want

the numbers go high and remember to blog regularly.

here is one of the things that I’ve seen happening around the world of making money online.

There are things that you know best the other things that you don’t even have to go and extra

mile on doing things that he do so effortlessly, so right about those things make it a book sell

your eBook you never know who needs the tips who needs the lower house of making it happen.

So let’s assume you are very good at prepping food or food prepping make a book

about it it will be good for those people who are looking forward to losing weight to

living a healthy life or changing their diet habits. we have booked all over of people

showing their skills on things that they are experts on so why not go ahead and create your own

eBook and sell it online. He is one of the tools that will help you on publishing your book

you go to Amazon kdp which is a direct publishing period though they will deduct a certain

amount from your sales at the end of the day you have those coins baby on your pocket

from writing about your expertise. I have seen people write beautiful things like getting rid

of acne. so go ahead and sit down to think about what you are good at put it on pen

and paper published and make that money.

here is one of the other things that I’ve seen happening around which is a great idea

but just know you have to set up a website. like I have said earlier on website can make

money out of advertisement but how about you advertise your own products on your website.

so let’s say you will make personalised t-shirts or you have a merch or you have just

anything to sell cell so how about you make money out of it. If your website has a high traffic

and you have more readers everyday that enjoy interest your content they also purchase

the products that you’re selling to them.

Last but not least dropshipping. many of you might have heard about dropshipping

over a period of time and don’t know what it is all about I have seen it happening on different websites and

people making money out of it so you set up an online store you look good but you don’t have them

right where you are. Most of the sellers on AliExpress and other online stores are dropshippers

what you do is you list an item put your own markup but when somebody wants the item

you buy them from the source and put the bio address instead of yours so

You have made money.

WooCommerce

WooCommerce

I look forward to hearing your stories about making money online and showing your success track so leave comments on the comments section telling me your

your success track so leave comments on the comments section telling me your

experiences about making money online what has worked for you,

you never know somebody here might need to hear it.

XOXO

Thero