SELF LOVE PROGRAM

Join my program.

The self love program is an online workshop held for a period of 14 days with scheduled weeks.

The program aims at making people get back to themselves in a more easy way and with planned topics. There are tasks that are given to help clients connect with who they really want to be.

Daily emails and sometimes with voice noted and pictorial information.

Email : slwiththero@gmail.com to get more information and Rate card for the program.

RED FLAGS THAT SHOULD GET YOU RUNNING

Relationships are hard no matter how much we want them to be easy. At the same time we can be in relationships with ease and more relaxation after we set goals and sometimes rules

Though they say love is blind, is it a good reason to neglect our own feelings.

Here are some of the things to look out for when getting into a relationship:

AGGRESSION: by this I mean when your new partner is unhappy about something and they decide to approach you with too much anger

This can make anyone uncomfortable and feel belittled. Though we make excuses foe such behaviour taking a deeper look into your feeling after the event is the most important part. That choking that you feel, the blame you put on yourself are toxic and will make you forget about your happiness.

You can’t always be happy but you have to most be most times.

AGREE TO EVERYTHING THEY DO/SAY:

You’re in a relationship for goodness sake not a military. Your opinions matter too.

Civil conversations should be normalised in relationships. Now imagine if your partner is the one that wants to run your relationship like a military. It tends to cause more arguments.

If I can tell you, agreeing to everything because you want peace is not getting peace. It will haunt you until you forget about it and guess what it might be used as reference on the next argument.

You can have a grown up discussion without any of you feeling like authority or leader of a gang. If this happens address it with your partner and if it persists RUN. You need your sanity.

SAD MOMENTS SURPASS HAPPY MOMENTS:

Why do you prefer this kind of relationship when there is tons of happiness out there.

Choose you, choose your sanity, choose your happiness and choose you heart. Though we like joking about guarding our hearts and souls we actually have to do it. Do not be desperate to be in a relationship to a point where you STAY even when there is not ray of sunshine in your relationship.

Do not stay I repeat do not stay. Leave because you end up in too deep. You become a doormat for a relationship that doesn’t work for you. Remember if you can’t talk and solve it remember you need yourself more than anyone needs you

ABUSE: I mean any form of abuse,

Physical, emotional and verbal abuse can’t be sugar coated no matter how much you try.

You cannot allow yourself to walk around with a broken spirit. You are not going to live around negative energy because you are in a relationship. You’re slowly burning yourself to ashes inside. And there will be a time where you’ll not be able to save yourself. So RUN and remember Gender Based Violence is both sides. Men can get abused too. To men, do not be afraid to talk about it you also need to heal.

WHEN THEY DIM YOUR LIGHT:

When your partner doesn’t allow you to be who you’re.

When we get into new relationships we shouldn’t forget who we are. We should still remain as bubbly as we were. We cannot change in a relationship but remain our true selves so that our new partners know who they are dealing with and love us for who we are.

Changing to suit our partners tends to make us forget our selves and get lost. When things go wrong we don’t even remember who we truly are.

Remember to stay true to yourself and don’t lose identity. Like I always put it, your sanity matters in a relationship.

If you feel like you’re changing to fit into someone’s life RUN.

E-Book Launch WAYS TO LOVE YOURSELF

I’ve been working on a self love book and it is finally here!

Through different platforms I have realised that there are people who still struggle with the journey of self-love because they have no one or no tool to help them throughout the way.

So I came up with this little manual or guide to help those are on that journey so that they don’t feel alone and they have something to keep them going and a book to read whenever they need a reminder that self-love is key in our lives.

When I wrote this book I had people that are actually struggling and those who are learning to love themselves again after they have gone through a rough life experiences in my mind.

With the way the world has turn out to be and the way behaviours of people have changed it has made some people uncomfortable to express themselves openly. I wrote this book to act as a friend that one can communicate with and I’m opening up to anyone who like to discuss the book with me or have a discussion and helping them start the journey of self-love.

In a short period of time I’ll be welcoming people that would like to have sessions with me on a weekly basis Monday to Friday to help them kick start the journey of loving themselves, assessing key areas where they need to actually put the focus so that they can win if this journey of loving themselves.

The platform of having consultations is to be able to learn the patterns and behaviours of people that are going through journeys that are tough to carry and they need help to be able to express themselves. Not in any way will I be taking a place of a psychologist or therapist but I’ll be taking a place of a friend who’s willing to listen and be a friend to anyone that will come my way.

This book is just the beginning of a wonderful journey that I want to have with other people out there and make sure that I reach a number of people that can also reach out to others and and be examples of people who have learnt to love themselves beyond their life experiences.

To purchase this book just click on the picture of the book cover and it will Direct you straight to Amazon where you can purchase the Ebook version and the paperback version is also under construction hopefully it will be available soon.

Mentally Beating Infertility Issues

I’ve been meaning to write this post but my emotions wouldn’t allow me. This topic is very close to my heart because it’s exactly what I’m going through at the moment and it gets to me often times.

My trials and failures have come at a time when I had to think about this. Trying to conceive and thinking about conceiving are two different things and people should learn to differentiate those.

When you are trying to conceive it means time is put on planning in your head and your heart beats for that. Then thinking about conceiving is just a thought that comes now and then triggered by whatever it could be.

In my own little world I would have wanted to conceive from 22 years old I wanted to have three kids who will be two years apart. As in having a kid at 22, 24 and 26. This year I am turning 27 it is the time I could be planning to have another child or planning to continue living my life with the three kids all under 10 and being under 30. But nature hasn’t taken its course.

I have such undefined indefinite and deep Love for kids and unfortunately I have been trying to dig my hand in that bowl just to catch the one for me but it hasn’t happened.

Most of the time I end up in tears when I’m doing or talking about this topic and today I am stronger than any other time I’ve talked about this. My head keeps on telling me it will be okay then my heart yearns to be a mother. I’ve gone to hospitals clinics I’ve done scans have been checked by so many gynecologist everyone says everything is ok but why am I not conceiving.

I have been a patient of secondary amenorrhea for the past 6 years and it’s draining now because the medical bills keep on going high. I’m at a stage where my mind wants to say you will conceive one day, you are okay and you’re doing good then my heart says you want to be a mother time is moving do something.

I have been at my worst thinking about having kids I have cried myself to sleep thinking of having kids. I have even got to a point where adoption was an option but I keep on telling myself I’m still young I have a child period and the question that nobody bothers me is I don’t wanna hang how long am I going to be young I want to have kids that I can play with, kids that I can grow with, kids that won’t have a huge generational difference with me. I want to have babies that I’ll be able to teach my ways. They learn from mine and I learn from their generation without a huge gap between us. But there’s how I deal with not having kids.

Staying positive is not just about saying it staying positive means you tell both your brain and your heart to be optimistic. As you tell yourself that the fear door will be shut and it shall pass.

Talking about the topic with people that understand than people that are going to question you about having kids every time you meet them.

It’s so tiring getting this question of when are you having kids? When people don’t even know your medical background or your reasons for not having kids at a certain age. So be around people that are supportive people that understand your situation people that can comfort you where they know what you’re going through.

Don’t stop seeking medical help. This is because if you didn’t get help the first, the second or the third time doesn’t mean you don’t need it anymore. Keep on going to see specialists because one day out of all the hundred failures it is the hundred and one that will be a success. Oh so keep visiting doctors even if it’s the same doctor one day they will find a solution they will see the determination in you that will also push them to seek help for you.

Read books that pay attention to your problem, read books that address your problem and read articles that actually give you courage in knowing that someone out there has been through the same and you can get through it too. Do not associate yourself with articles that discourage you do not associate yourself with failed methods and do not associate yourself with failed stories because they will only only reflect to you as if you’re going to fail too.

Take advice that you see will work for you. Doctors will always advise you to go certain ways or the other do not be afraid to risk it but do not do anything that is illegal do not be afraid to risk working towards a goal of having babies. When it’s expensive to execute a certain advice save up for it because it is what you want as much as you’ve saved for the bag for the phone for the shoe that he want for a trip that you want see before this one because they’re the end of the day you say that I have tried.