YOU NEED TO STOP SELF SABOTAGE

How many times have you pinned yourself in one spot avoided doing exactly what you have been planning. Self sabotage is so common yet so rare because we do not talk about it. Most people struggle with this and end up finding reasons to blame others or their situations.

What is stopping you? Is it fear of failure or fear of starting? Whatever it is just do not give a moment in your thoughts. This can block you from doing things that you have been planning for in a very long time.

Now let us look at how you can break the pattern of self sabotaging.

ASSESS YOUR BEHAVIOR: you are the only one with an ability to know and acknowledge that there are certain behaviors that you are allowing that stop you from starting or doing things. Look at the things that you do that have an impact on you slowing down or losing interest in achieving your goals. This will hard because you’re going to be giving excuse for every wrong behavior and you do not need to. Allow yourself to sense the wrong in not giving yourself a chance to do what you have plans of doing.

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WHAT CAUSES THE SABOTAGING BEHAVIOR: Now, we do most things and act a certain way because of particular influences. Get to know your influence and know which behavior pattern it encourages. When you are able to tell the root cause of the behavior that sabotages your own goals and plans it will be easy to help yourself out of the self sabotage pit. As written above you might happen to have excuses for behaviors that you are not ready to part with but it is a matter of trying. Dig deeper into what is stopping you from going ahead. Look for the root cause even in unexpected areas because it is a slow process and everything has to be put on the table to avoid relapses and backsliding.

INTROSPECTION. How about a little look into who really are and what you are really doing. Some self-reflection will not hurt. Take time to asses your life and what you want. Look deep into what you have been trying to achieve and what has been stopping you. Try by all means not to bring anything outside of yourself as a reason to why you are not going forward. Give the attention to yourself and then work on it. Be fair, do not pressurise yourself. Remember you are trying to solve a problem within you and not creating a bad space for your progress. Look at habits that have been hindering you from starting on your plans or keeping you away from doing the work that is needed to progress.

POSITIVITY IN YOU: There is an inner voice in you that constantly reminds you that you have to get up and start working on your dreams but the above mentioned traits about behaviors is what suppresses it. The bad habits take space of this positive voice inside you and you have given them a go ahead. Start listening to the inner you and pay attention to the positive attitude it brings. This might get tiring as you will sometimes need a second opinion but also lean to listen to your own advice that comes from within. There is nothing wrong with taking your own advice and try it. There is that inner voice inside you that wants you to make it and win in life , give it a chance.

MAKE BEHAVIOR PATTERNS THAT WORK FOR YOU: You have identified behavior patterns that are working against you and you need to change them and make something that works in your favour. Work hard on making the right decisions. You know what tickles your fancy and that is what you need to work on first. Do not be hard on yourself and do not be be too soft also. The best way to come up with what works is to think about the reasons you need to do it. Remind yourself why you are doing it and what you are looking to achieve. Despite having identified the patterns that slow you down turn to ones that give you a reason.

START MAKING SMALL CHANGES: The journey of making your plans work will not start until you start taking your first steps. Begin with make small changes on your behavior patterns and doing little activities that align with what you want to achieve. It is the small steps that will determine if you are ready to work on it or you need to adjust. Baby steps are meant to get you ready for the big job of working towards your goals and dreams. When you do all this start taking note of what brings you joy, the importance of this is to know what activities keep you going. Start also taking notes of where you are falling behind and what you could do to pull yourself up.

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PLAN YOUR GOAL AND THE ROAD MAP: You have settled into your route and ready to make it work. Set goals that are relevant to the main goal. If you had no main goal set this is the the time to do so since you have picked your rhythm and ready to make way for yourself. Self sabotage can take a lot from a a person. The dreams that you had cancelled before you started and all the things you thought were impossible can now be taken head on. You need to look how far you have come and use the same strength to keep moving. work on the goals and follow the road map you have outlined for yourself.

Do not be afraid to fail. Working on making it is not mistake proof. We need the results to be perfect that means mistakes will be made and corrections will also be made. It is up to you to keep soaring high after fighting off self sabotage habits and letting those bad habits go and introduce what works and what works for you as an individual.

XoXo

Thero M

E-Book Launch WAYS TO LOVE YOURSELF

I’ve been working on a self love book and it is finally here!

Through different platforms I have realised that there are people who still struggle with the journey of self-love because they have no one or no tool to help them throughout the way.

So I came up with this little manual or guide to help those are on that journey so that they don’t feel alone and they have something to keep them going and a book to read whenever they need a reminder that self-love is key in our lives.

When I wrote this book I had people that are actually struggling and those who are learning to love themselves again after they have gone through a rough life experiences in my mind.

With the way the world has turn out to be and the way behaviours of people have changed it has made some people uncomfortable to express themselves openly. I wrote this book to act as a friend that one can communicate with and I’m opening up to anyone who like to discuss the book with me or have a discussion and helping them start the journey of self-love.

In a short period of time I’ll be welcoming people that would like to have sessions with me on a weekly basis Monday to Friday to help them kick start the journey of loving themselves, assessing key areas where they need to actually put the focus so that they can win if this journey of loving themselves.

The platform of having consultations is to be able to learn the patterns and behaviours of people that are going through journeys that are tough to carry and they need help to be able to express themselves. Not in any way will I be taking a place of a psychologist or therapist but I’ll be taking a place of a friend who’s willing to listen and be a friend to anyone that will come my way.

This book is just the beginning of a wonderful journey that I want to have with other people out there and make sure that I reach a number of people that can also reach out to others and and be examples of people who have learnt to love themselves beyond their life experiences.

To purchase this book just click on the picture of the book cover and it will Direct you straight to Amazon where you can purchase the Ebook version and the paperback version is also under construction hopefully it will be available soon.

PAYING DEBTS

Hello and let’s get to talk about money.

If there anything in this world that can damage you is debts. I have had my fair share of falling into deep debts that was very difficult to get out of. This time around I want to discuss with you how to get out of debts and live a better and easy life.

I’m so excited to share the steps with you on how I got my life back.

quote calligraphy under cup of lemon teaI have fallen in love with financial literacy.

financial literacy is an essential in our everyday life. I had a month to train myself to be able to handle money and save and learning how to budget, how to prepare spending methods and learning how to use money on good investment is not easy.

Before we take this journey of learning how to get out of debt we should understand the value of money we have on our hands and the bank or the one we are planning to have. Money is not a topic that you just come up with.

On this day and era we have financial advisors we have brokers for our investments and we also have so much information on the internet libraries that can help us help ourselves individually without involving anyone or third party. No matter how much he want to look rich be financial free or have financial freedom you still need to understand financial literacy. The journey that I took to be debt-free was not an easy one I had to learn a few tips and tricks to get off the hook. So I have decided to share with you the same methods that I used to relieve myself from debt and live a debt-free life and easy life where I’m in control of my finances.

STEPS TO FINANCIAL FREEDOM

1. Most of the time before we deal with the problem we have to identify it. Identifying what causes your financial strain and what makes you spend money unnecessarily. The lack of money sometimes is not caused by How Little We got but on how much we spend. So identify what digs into your pocket that doesn’t return any cent.

2. After you identify your problem write it down. After writing the problem that you have try to list possible Solutions under that problem. If it’s budgeting you list them like budgeting, controlling buying food outside, buying groceries for the whole month that’s how you can come up with Solutions.

3. Now that you have identified the problem wrote down possible Solutions now try to figure out if you will be able to perform or work on the Solutions on your own. If it is a difficult for you to execute the action plan that will get to the solution go to the bank that you use for all your income streams. Sit down let them help you with a budget that will work for you for a long time and not strain your pocket so that you don’t borrow money from different people and different microlenders.

4. On this one if you are able to execute the plan on your own. Start cutting out things that make you spend money unnecessarily go back to the problems that you listed on number one and try to figure out a way of executing the Solutions that you wrote under the problem then you are starting your journey to financial freedom. Cut out credit cards that are unnecessary cut buying food out everyday which is expensive, cut out borrowing people that don’t return your money back. Those are a few things you have to cut out of your life.

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5. Now that you’re working on the Solutions be the boss of your money no matter how much you are tempted to buy unnecessary stuff the first thing you have to think about is how will this benefit me? how will this bring money into the house? Will this give me Returns? These are the questions that you’re  supposed to ask yourself  before dropping your hard earned money down the drain. When you start thinking positively about money you start using money correctly. When you start spending on things that do not benefit you in any way about money money will not benefit you.

6. And now that you have worked on your budget you have worked on making money work for you. Pay the little debts that are eating from your pocket when you start taking control of your money remember to clear your debt when that credit card is no longer taking money from you pay the little debts that you made on the way. Now don’t force yourself to pay all your debts at once because it will strain you and you’ll go back to the same habit of borrowing money everywhere using money unnecessarily. So start paying those small debts that have been pestering you with the little change you’re left with from budgeting and using money wisely.

7. Now we are working our way towards financial freedom. We are on our way to that. We are winning at the thing of taking care of money, we are winning this thing of having control of our money. You are the boss of your money you are the leader the holder of money. I am happy that I was able to share this with you. I identify my problems I came up with Solutions I worked on my Solutions. A little bit so that debts weren’t taking money from me monthly unnecessarily. I took charge  so take charge too.

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It was a pleasure sharing that part of my life with you. I’m looking forward to testimonies on how you were able to beat that. I’m looking forward to your testimony on how you managed to get your life back financially. I’m looking forward to seeing you guys gain financial freedom and those are a few steps that I want you to offer you so that you don’t have to worry about money anymore. Remember money is an energy the way you treat money money will treat you. I’m looking forward to and next money talk. Work  hard and making sure we are all bosses of our money.

Vision Boards

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Its the beginning of a brand new year and we are all looking forward to starting new things and letting go some. The biggest invitation to life is a second chance which we are given every day without doubt.

Resolutions are made but let me introduce you to vision boards. They could be the biggest trend now since we all have things to achieve and looking forward to celebrating life. Vision boards are liking putting your dreams right in front of you and wanting to get them all worked on despite the hardships.

so make your vision boards into quadrants and break them down into categories. E.g.

Finance(creating wealth)

  • Savings
  • Sticking to budget
  • Limiting impulsive shopping

Health (Living a healthy life)

  • Stick to gym routine
  • Eat healthy
  • Avoid too much junk
  • Regularncheck ups

Career ( Elevation)

  • Creating useful connections
  • Training in needed fields
  • Fixing a CV

Personal (being content)

  • Finding happiness
  • Time for introspection
  • Do what I love
  • Keep out of drama

I hope you look forward to a fruitful year all around.