Blissful and Nasty sides of Gap Relationships

On the previous read we talked about making gap relationships work. We still have a long way to go on this one.Because I’m also in a gap relationship I think it’s only right to share with you the goodies and the baddies.Remember relationships have no manual. We meet different people with different personalities and different expectations but we still strive to make the relationship work. In a relationship there are ups and downs and also the beautiful and the Ugly.My wish was to write the ideal first but because I don’t want to ruin your mood before you go and let me give you into the beautiful aspect of the least four aspects of age gap relationship.

BLISSFUL MOMENTS

When I just thought of the word blissful moments I also thought I could have written advantages but because this is a relationship not a case study I decided to give it that hip name.Being a young lady and dating an older man sometimes brings others old versions of chivalry. The man is still stuck to the days where they used to do things for women and women had to be chased women. I know you know what I’m talking about will be opening doors for you and giving you little meaningful gifts and reminding you how much they love you each chance they get. And the older man or whichever partner is older  gets to experience the bubbly personality of a younger partner you get to relive the Moments that you lived when you were their age and it brings so much joy of knowing you can be your young self again.

Conversations

When there is a big age gap in a relationship conversations are interesting. The younger generation gets to experience more meaningful and goal-oriented conversation.When the two are compatible there is more of a sit-down conversation the throwing tantrums. There is no of listening than talking even if there is more energy from the younger one there is always control from the older one. There is this sense of maturity in the relationship and the ability to fix problems easily. This does not mean that there cannot be arguments but they are healthy arguments than the ones that are risky.

KNOWLEDGE

Anyone in a gay relationship will tell you how much the older partner likes sharing knowledge. Most of the time they want to teach the younger ones about so many things whenever they can.You know what’s cool? The younger ones are always teaching the older ones or newer trends, new fashion and even technology. This makes the older partner want to give them more regards and credit for all the things they teach them to keep up with the times.

SUPPORT

There’s that level of support that is involved in an age gap relationship.In an age gap relationship you and your partner are not competing for Success that much or out there trying to make names for both of you. The other partner is already established and has experience on what it is like to be out there trying to make a name for yourself. They render much of their support to you and expect a little from you. Though they might also need support from you when they are trying new things you just know you have someone to lean on whenever things are hard there. They can give you the best advice you can ever think of.
Sometimes even financially when you want to start up your own business they’re always there trying to fund your business and they will also develop your idea. They will spend any penny they have for you to make it, they give you advice, help you on making business plan. When the world is harsh on you they give you support and advice you could have never even given yourself because they know how rough it is no matter the generational difference.

INDULGE & EXPLORE

When growing up there are places you both wanted to go to they could be different places but you still want to visit them.Then this is the time to go. The older partner has always wanted to go to, and the the younger partner also want to explore. There could be history attached to each one of you having the need to go there so get up and go. The older could have been more traveled and know the way around and the younger could know the fun part about traveling making it more fun.Make memories together make each other feel like you are young and old at the same time. Indulge and explore. Don’t wait for the other to tell you what to do initiate things today. Travel see the world start loving art, introduce each other to things they never knew were fun.It is ALWAYS fun in an age gap relationship.

NASTY MOMENTS

This is about to turn the tables but they don’t erase the blissful moments unless you need to walk out of the relationship. In Any relationships as much as the UPS are there they are also Downs and we cannot escape them the only thing we can do is deal with them. Now let’s look at the nasty moments of age gap relationships.Oh yes age gap relationships are something else let me take you through the journey all the ugly sides.

GOALS

You are from different spaces of time and your goals are totally going to be different. Sometimes the older partner is more established ahead and is looking forward to adding just a little bit of things on their life. And the younger partners are getting out there, they are ready to conquer, to live and to experience everything they can so that they can also have stories when they’re old.Obviously the goals will be different. The other partner has achieved so much in life and the other partner is looking to work their way through to the top and make a name for themselves. Then now there’s a clash of interests because they are pulling two different directions. But this doesn’t mean the relationship can work the only thing that will be needed will be support for the other.

BRINGING IN AGE

When getting into a age-gap relationship we expect age to be less of a topic but there are times when it comes in especially during the ugly times.When we get into age gap relationship we know age should not be an issue but sometimes it’s like in every argument. Somebody needs to state that they are young and the other states that they are old. This is one of the unnecessary things to mention in an age gap relationship ,there is no need to bring it in because it’s obvious we both know we have a huge age gap between us.Sometimes the age issue is just brought in to emphasize a point. The young partner wants to use age so that their point or whatever they want to do the message is sent across and the older wants to do the same thing when they want to emphasize a point they use age. E.g.
The older partner will come up with a suggestion and when the younger one doesn’t agree they will throw in words like “I am way older than you so I know how these things happen”And the younger partner will also want to put their point across and say “that was during your time, this time around things are different and I already know the tips and tricks on how to do it.”See! We can just sort things out and maybe try both option if they are not time consuming or expensive.

EXPECTATIONS

Thing were done differently back in the day.Oh because we know most age gap relationships and the man who’s older and the woman who’s younger. You could have been raised in different households and different chores done by different genders or should I say send the best roles in a household.On this day women know men can cook. They also know men can claim and birth the babies. Now imagine and older men being out for young lady to clean the house because they are taught on this day everything is 50/50 and then no more gender-based roles in a household.This can also refer to the old men and then they will expect the lady to clean, cook and bath the kids and do everything in the household when they are out there trying to provide the for the family. Guess what because women these days work they could also be out there fending for the family.Now with all those, there is need for the couple to sit down to sort out their lives and decide on how things are done.Remember from the beginning wrote that there is no manual for relationships. All there is, is the need to be in the love, respect each othet and be committed to each other. The best thing that you can do is to sit down and discuss everything, when all cards are put on the table it’s easy to deal with each other and tell the other how you want to be treated they will also tell you how they want to be treated.Looking forward to reading on how you made it work.

Making A Gap Relationship Work

I met Mike in 2013 and it was a very awkward way to meet.

I realised he was way older than me and it made me a bit nervous about the whole thing especially when it came to introducing him to the family. But we made it work until now. This article will give you a clue on how to do it too if you’re in a gap relationship.

I’m going to highlight ways you can make such relationships work with less effort and more love.

COMMUNICATION

This is key in every relationship but when it comes to gap relationships it is vital. Remember you could be from different generations. This means understanding each is will have it out wrong turns but eventually things have to be sorted, decisions have to be made and choices picked.

For all this to be achieved communication has to come as an essential. Being able to put a message across without sound childish or uptight is one of the things to consider. Listen to what the other prefers and communicate what you prefer. Since one could seem left behind in experience and time the other might lack in trends and tech due to age difference but it’s nothing communication can’t fix.

ACCEPTANCE

You’re ought to accept that the other is way young and the other is way older. This will help in making decisions and living in a peaceful environment.

It also reduces the age issue being thrown in during arguments. Acceptance includes knowing the other likes a certain kind of music, clothes and even places to visit. Our generation wants a more alive spot and the older want chilled spots for entertainment. But because love and compromise are part of the package it becomes easy to navigate through both sides.

Acceptance also means that the other has to know that their partner can be slower or faster on some other thing.

It also refers to knowing that the other might be on the on the quiet side and the other might be more on the loud side. But this is not supposed to stop you from loving each other despite your differences starting with age.

LOVE

The reason for a gap relationship Should Be Loved. If there is any other motive the relationship will not go far.

Oftentimes relationships are confused for material things and money. Whenever the lady is the younger one in the man is the older one the artist relationship to riches money and other benefits. The best way to get rid of this disgusting though is to love purely from both side.

Get relationships and he really controversial and they need somebody with a strong personality to navigate to them. I love should come as the main motive of that relationship so that it can move on and be able to get rid of any doubt from both sides.

Most times it is believed that older men use beautiful young ladies to their benefit and wanting satisfy their need to also look younger. women date older men for money and material purposes. But if love is portrayed in a pure way it is easy to get rid of the perspective and easy to introduce each other to families and move on with a happy life.

HAVE FUN

Having fun means enjoying each other’s company. Is going out of your way to make each other happy.

Try by all means to find things that make each other happy like going to the movies, going to watch football, going to the park.

Every couple in young or older get relationship have a love language. Gap relationship couples should be able to explore each other’s love languages so that they know what sparkes the fire of their love.

Sometimes it comes in the form of just sitting around making fun of each other. It also involves cuddling saying sweet nothings to each other just to remind each other of how much you love them. Having fun comes in So Many Ways it can depend on what kind of people you are. There is no manual on having fun in a relationship. But all-in-all don’t forget that you have to make each other witty and smitten and laugh all the time. You have to make sure they have you in their mind when they think of having fun.

Looking forward to helping you to make a gap relationship work.

PAYING DEBTS

Hello and let’s get to talk about money.

If there anything in this world that can damage you is debts. I have had my fair share of falling into deep debts that was very difficult to get out of. This time around I want to discuss with you how to get out of debts and live a better and easy life.

I’m so excited to share the steps with you on how I got my life back.

quote calligraphy under cup of lemon teaI have fallen in love with financial literacy.

financial literacy is an essential in our everyday life. I had a month to train myself to be able to handle money and save and learning how to budget, how to prepare spending methods and learning how to use money on good investment is not easy.

Before we take this journey of learning how to get out of debt we should understand the value of money we have on our hands and the bank or the one we are planning to have. Money is not a topic that you just come up with.

On this day and era we have financial advisors we have brokers for our investments and we also have so much information on the internet libraries that can help us help ourselves individually without involving anyone or third party. No matter how much he want to look rich be financial free or have financial freedom you still need to understand financial literacy. The journey that I took to be debt-free was not an easy one I had to learn a few tips and tricks to get off the hook. So I have decided to share with you the same methods that I used to relieve myself from debt and live a debt-free life and easy life where I’m in control of my finances.

STEPS TO FINANCIAL FREEDOM

1. Most of the time before we deal with the problem we have to identify it. Identifying what causes your financial strain and what makes you spend money unnecessarily. The lack of money sometimes is not caused by How Little We got but on how much we spend. So identify what digs into your pocket that doesn’t return any cent.

2. After you identify your problem write it down. After writing the problem that you have try to list possible Solutions under that problem. If it’s budgeting you list them like budgeting, controlling buying food outside, buying groceries for the whole month that’s how you can come up with Solutions.

3. Now that you have identified the problem wrote down possible Solutions now try to figure out if you will be able to perform or work on the Solutions on your own. If it is a difficult for you to execute the action plan that will get to the solution go to the bank that you use for all your income streams. Sit down let them help you with a budget that will work for you for a long time and not strain your pocket so that you don’t borrow money from different people and different microlenders.

4. On this one if you are able to execute the plan on your own. Start cutting out things that make you spend money unnecessarily go back to the problems that you listed on number one and try to figure out a way of executing the Solutions that you wrote under the problem then you are starting your journey to financial freedom. Cut out credit cards that are unnecessary cut buying food out everyday which is expensive, cut out borrowing people that don’t return your money back. Those are a few things you have to cut out of your life.

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5. Now that you’re working on the Solutions be the boss of your money no matter how much you are tempted to buy unnecessary stuff the first thing you have to think about is how will this benefit me? how will this bring money into the house? Will this give me Returns? These are the questions that you’re  supposed to ask yourself  before dropping your hard earned money down the drain. When you start thinking positively about money you start using money correctly. When you start spending on things that do not benefit you in any way about money money will not benefit you.

6. And now that you have worked on your budget you have worked on making money work for you. Pay the little debts that are eating from your pocket when you start taking control of your money remember to clear your debt when that credit card is no longer taking money from you pay the little debts that you made on the way. Now don’t force yourself to pay all your debts at once because it will strain you and you’ll go back to the same habit of borrowing money everywhere using money unnecessarily. So start paying those small debts that have been pestering you with the little change you’re left with from budgeting and using money wisely.

7. Now we are working our way towards financial freedom. We are on our way to that. We are winning at the thing of taking care of money, we are winning this thing of having control of our money. You are the boss of your money you are the leader the holder of money. I am happy that I was able to share this with you. I identify my problems I came up with Solutions I worked on my Solutions. A little bit so that debts weren’t taking money from me monthly unnecessarily. I took charge  so take charge too.

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It was a pleasure sharing that part of my life with you. I’m looking forward to testimonies on how you were able to beat that. I’m looking forward to your testimony on how you managed to get your life back financially. I’m looking forward to seeing you guys gain financial freedom and those are a few steps that I want you to offer you so that you don’t have to worry about money anymore. Remember money is an energy the way you treat money money will treat you. I’m looking forward to and next money talk. Work  hard and making sure we are all bosses of our money.

Picking myself up

The past year has been the most challenging financially and emotionally.

I went through a lot of negatives and lots of downfalls in 2019.

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I had nothing left on my account most of the times. Taking small loans was what always crossed my mind and I learnt to take it the hard way. I was living from cheque to cheque, month to month eating straight from my hand. I lost all hope on saving and having what’s mine. I even planned on selling a few items in my house.  It was really devastating and depressing. I struggled with making a budget.  I also do not know how I made it to 2020 with the heavy baggage I had on my shoulder. There are night where I cried mysemyself to sleep to avoid think about money. There was such a bad eneegybregarding my finances.

My emotions were also all over the place. I felt like I  was sinking and there was no one to rescue me. 2019 was a rollercoaster of emotions for me. I even had thoughts of giving up and quitting on my dreams but the drive in me kept me going my fore fire kept blazing and burning. All hope was lost but I pushed through the year.

Now I have set up a plan of picking myself up and living.

Let me share what my plans are for keeping and growing the little positivity left in me.

1. Having goals:

Putting goals into place and acting upon them reduces the chance of procrastination and builds a strong will to perform. Goals are a bot of motivation no matter how much the pressure feels.

2. Seeking help when needed:

This is very important to consider because sometimes we can’t be jack of all trades. We can’t be in several places at the same time. No matter how much we want to be our own little heroes we have to allow people to help us.

3. Budgeting:

Budgeting is a challenge on it’s own. It takes lots of courage to do it and actually abide by it. Budgeting can become a necessary habit which can be beneficial in building a financial freedom environment.

4. Meditating:

Thinking of this made me a bit nervous because it’s not anything that I’m used to. Being in silent spaces is not my ideal kind of place but I’m not so good with silent space. This is  a good idea if you love silent  spaces.

5. Prayer

It is important to learn how to pray for the things that you want.

Prayer can change lives. It grows the mind especially when you put your mind and effort into it. Learn to have time to speak what you wang into existence.

 

 

Making money online


I have been struggling with making money online. When I discovered blogging.

Blogging doesn’t make you money right away but over sometime when you have a better traffic

usually can depend on advertisement. recently I’ve been doing a lot of

research about making money online, YouTube has all the advice you can give.

Remember this is not a get-rich-quick scheme. This is an empire you have to build brick by brick.

This is an empire you have to build brick by brick.
when I started being an online nomad I had to learn a lot of things

that from the beginning I had discarded but now I have learnt so many things that have

paved a very good pass for me to work on. recently I have learnt to engage my readers

and everyone who’s interested on hearing my story about making money online.

so today I’m going to share tips of what I’ve learnt over time about making money online.

So let’s take this journey together of making money online from different websites.

The first website building site is WordPress. WordPress comes with a

perfect advertisement of its own which is called AdWords.

You can check out WordPress for a free website on http://www.wordpress.com

be sure to look out for their beautiful beautiful themes so that you can make a nice

website for yourself that can attract traffic around advertisers and attract every reader

around the world.

here is another tool that you can use to make money online.

You can use YouTube which is now worldwide and it can get monetized

videos and the more viewers you get the

more time spent on your videos you are sure to make those bucks.

First you have to find something unique like I said on top you have to find something

that you enjoy doing something that you love doing and something that you won’t get tired or bored

of doing overtime. set up your channel give it a very attractive name and name

that will make and no-one skip your videos make videos edit the videos make

sure you have a good editing skills to make you videos enjoyable and make people

spend time watching videos and one of the other things is to make sure that your videos

are family-friendly or no they’re going to get demonetized. when you set up your channel make

sure you know your target niche you know the age you want to target and you are sure to

make good content.

The other tip that I have for you is online surveys. you can go on Google and type online surveys or paid

online surveys and take the surveys

for a minimum of 0.05 cents. Sometimesthey can take so much time to accumulate the amount that is easily

payable. Be patient

because remember you are looking forward to making those bags and being trusted by businesses.

now let’s go to Google adsense, it’s one of the services just like AdWords

where you get paid by advertisers that advertise on your website.

after creating a website and accumulating

a certain number of readers register your website on adsense and they will take a look at it

sometimes it might get rejected sometimes it can be accepted and when it’s rejected take your

time look at their guidelines work on your website and make sure it’s what they want

the numbers go high and remember to blog regularly.

here is one of the things that I’ve seen happening around the world of making money online.

There are things that you know best the other things that you don’t even have to go and extra

mile on doing things that he do so effortlessly, so right about those things make it a book sell

your eBook you never know who needs the tips who needs the lower house of making it happen.

So let’s assume you are very good at prepping food or food prepping make a book

about it it will be good for those people who are looking forward to losing weight to

living a healthy life or changing their diet habits. we have booked all over of people

showing their skills on things that they are experts on so why not go ahead and create your own

eBook and sell it online. He is one of the tools that will help you on publishing your book

you go to Amazon kdp which is a direct publishing period though they will deduct a certain

amount from your sales at the end of the day you have those coins baby on your pocket

from writing about your expertise. I have seen people write beautiful things like getting rid

of acne. so go ahead and sit down to think about what you are good at put it on pen

and paper published and make that money.

here is one of the other things that I’ve seen happening around which is a great idea

but just know you have to set up a website. like I have said earlier on website can make

money out of advertisement but how about you advertise your own products on your website.

so let’s say you will make personalised t-shirts or you have a merch or you have just

anything to sell cell so how about you make money out of it. If your website has a high traffic

and you have more readers everyday that enjoy interest your content they also purchase

the products that you’re selling to them.

Last but not least dropshipping. many of you might have heard about dropshipping

over a period of time and don’t know what it is all about I have seen it happening on different websites and

people making money out of it so you set up an online store you look good but you don’t have them

right where you are. Most of the sellers on AliExpress and other online stores are dropshippers

what you do is you list an item put your own markup but when somebody wants the item

you buy them from the source and put the bio address instead of yours so

You have made money.

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I look forward to hearing your stories about making money online and showing your success track so leave comments on the comments section telling me your

your success track so leave comments on the comments section telling me your

experiences about making money online what has worked for you,

you never know somebody here might need to hear it.

XOXO

Thero

Changing Diet

This picture is so beautiful some will even salivate from just looking at it some disturbed since they are trying for a healthy living.

I’m starting my own journey which I hope will be incredible, losing weight is not really that big for me but there are things that I’m looking forward to that need that kind of change. My struggle with weight comes from when I was little apparently I was always a big child. I’m not going to use that as an excuse to remain big. I have to go through a life changing journey of at least losing the belly fat.

This is the journey I’m trying to embark on. They said it will not be easy but I’m up for the challenge either way. I look forward to missing my normal meal and wanting to cheat the diet and being proud that I didn’t fall into the trap.

I’m so looking forward to making those beautiful sounds with the smoothie maker and just feeling good about it. I was never exposed to healthy living until I got active on social media and seeing everyone is into it. I’m looking forward to sharing the journey with my readers and everyone willing to listen.

I will make a diet plan and try to stick to it. Since I’m not physically fit to do heavy exercises I will stick to cardio and the meal plan and try my best to have the results I want.

Let’s share this journey. If you have had the change to do it share and teach each other.

I can’t wait.

Xoxo

Thero M

The Beauty of A Fresh Start

The thought of starting the year all over again is exciting because you can work on what you did not achieve the previous year.

Did you notice everyone’s goal is to make more money each year. To look for the greener side of the fence. To seek greener pastures. This happens a lot to a point when there is tension between fantasy and reality. The work one has to put in to survive the hurdles and actually make it.

Now plan on what you want to do do achieve the set goal. Make sure it is realistic so you do not put pressure on your life. I’m going to share my financial journey on getting clean with debts and investing right.

Now investments are what you should look at side by side with saving.

CAREER is one of the most demanding tasks of our lives. We chase it grab it and want to grow it. But as you plan on doing just that remember to have a positive mind and also be open minded to things out your regular practice. Let your mind explore more possibilities allow your creative side show.

FAMILY AND FRIENDS

This is one thing that change a lot often times. So members lost due to death or fall outs. Remember you did not choose each other your family chose itself unlike friends.

Friends scatter there are those who come back and some never do. Most times our differences come in between and we forget why we are actually friends. But sometimes we let got becsuse of the toxicity involved. It’s ok friends come along all year round.

HEALTH

You started last year wanting to lose kilos and kilos but you seem like you not doing anything. How about you look for help. Training/gym partner and a dietician to help make too plans.

Maintaining a good shape is not child play so motivation and consistency are required on a daily basis.

New beginning

Xoxo

Thero M

Vision Boards

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Its the beginning of a brand new year and we are all looking forward to starting new things and letting go some. The biggest invitation to life is a second chance which we are given every day without doubt.

Resolutions are made but let me introduce you to vision boards. They could be the biggest trend now since we all have things to achieve and looking forward to celebrating life. Vision boards are liking putting your dreams right in front of you and wanting to get them all worked on despite the hardships.

so make your vision boards into quadrants and break them down into categories. E.g.

Finance(creating wealth)

  • Savings
  • Sticking to budget
  • Limiting impulsive shopping

Health (Living a healthy life)

  • Stick to gym routine
  • Eat healthy
  • Avoid too much junk
  • Regularncheck ups

Career ( Elevation)

  • Creating useful connections
  • Training in needed fields
  • Fixing a CV

Personal (being content)

  • Finding happiness
  • Time for introspection
  • Do what I love
  • Keep out of drama

I hope you look forward to a fruitful year all around.